Many people come to a time in their lives when they feel the need to
some it's a specific difficulty with work or family relationships,
a feeling of being
out of control of their lives or feeling
stuck and unable to move
you the opportunity to talk through your difficulties with
someone who isn't involved in the same way that friends and family are.
A counsellor will support you in gaining a deeper understanding of your
and can help you make changes.
Some of the issues that bring people to counselling are:
self confidence or esteem *
stress and anxiety
relationship and sexual problems
work or family relationships
inability to make a decision
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Low self confidence and low self esteem
can affect just about everything in
life: relationships, job prospects, and your overall
enjoyment of life itself.
Self confidence is an inner self-belief, an attitude of people who
trust their own
who do not depend on the approval of others in order to feel good
Many people find they are more or less confident in different areas of
Some are extremely confident, competent and respected at work, but feel
powerless to form a good emotional relationship at home. Others
esteem and confidence in their personal relationships, but when it
comes to their
jobs, they don't expect to be successful. Good self esteem - your self
value - increases your confidence.
Separation and divorce -- some
relationships end suddenly, some erode over
time. Whatever the circumstances, breaking up is a bleak time for all
For most people, it's a shock when a relationship breaks down. Even
over it can take months for reality to sink in, and during this time
uncommon for people to fantasise about getting back together and/or to
Many people get locked into looking for blame --
whose fault is it? What did I do
wrong? How could they do that to me? This is very understandable, but a
constructive approach is to focus on what went wrong in the
After a relationship breakdown, many people find
themselves struggling with
feelings of low self esteem and low self confidence. It can be easy to
give yourself time for your own feelings. Time with supportive friends
creating time and space to grieve, relaxation time, and treating
times are tough. It is important to be kind and gentle to yourself, and
the support you're offered from friends and family.Talking to someone
outside the situation can be of enormous benefit, and can help with the
important question of why your relationship failed.
Gaining this understanding is
the first step towards recovery. Counselling can
also help you deal with the emotions associated with splitting up:
sadness, depression, guilt, depair, fear and confusion.
Extremely important questions for many people are
how to tell the children,
and how best to help the children. The needs of the children are partly
by their ages. Younger children's concept of time means that it's not
helpful to tell them what is happening in a month or so's time, as a
seem like an age.
Although it can seem daunting, starting again after
a relationship breakdown
can also be an opportunity to make a fresh start and try new things. It
the first time in years that you have been able to put your needs first.
Grieving takes place after any sort of loss, but
most powerfully after the death
of anyone close.
A whole range of feelings and emotions can be experienced including
disbelief, numbness, anger, depression, guilt, yearning and confusion.
Grieving takes time and no two people grieve in the same way. It is
to recognise the individual differences and experiences. Some people
say their divorce was more painful to them than the death of their
Others say they daren't speak out about the extremely painful feelings
following the death of a pet.
Loss of a partner ....
Most recover from a major bereavement within one to two years. As time
passes the pain of bereavement begins to fade. Sometimes talking to
someone other than friends or family can help this process. Some people
value time and space to be able to talk about their loss of a loved
need help in order to get to a stage of being able to look forward and
about the future.